Holmes, Kimberly (2024). ""Madly In Love" Researcher Talks Love, Limerence, and Mating For Life with Dr. Helen Fisher". It Starts With Attraction (Podcast). Retrieved 27 May 2024.: "I don't think there is any difference [between romantic love and limerence]. I used to know [Dorothy Tennov] and I guess she wanted to invent a new term, and that was fine. I don't mind that, but I actually like the term of romantic love. Her concept of limerence was a rather sad one. It had a sad component to it. Anyway, she created a new term. It's a perfectly fine term. I could have used it myself. I decided not to because I felt that the term romantic love had meaning in society and I didn't see the need for a new term. But I certainly liked her work. I certainly read her book. I certainly knew her. I admired her. And I didn't happen to adopt the term limerence, but if people want to use it, fine with me. [...] My memory of [limerence]—and this is—she wrote that book in 1979, so I—and then she died pretty recently—and she was sick, and even the day that I met her at a conference, she was with her son who she really needed for, I don't know, for emotional or physical support. From my reading of it, she sort of felt that limerence was a somewhat unhealthy experience, that it so overtook you and could lead to some disaster."
Beam 2013, pp. 72, 75: "[Tennov] discovered that many who considered themselves 'madly in love' had similar descriptions of their emotions and actions. She chose the label limerence to describe an intense longing and desire for another person that is much stronger than a simple infatuation, but not the same as a long-lived love that could last a life-time. [...] In 2002, Helen Fisher, PhD, in concert with other researchers, published the article 'Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment' in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. Considered a leading researcher [...], she and her research colleagues have identified several characteristics of a person who is 'madly in love,' or, as we put it, in limerence." Beam, Joe (2013). The Art of Falling in Love. Simon and Schuster. ISBN978-1-4516-7265-7.
Hatfield 1988, p. 197: "Tennov (1979) interviewed more than five hundred passionate lovers. Almost all lovers took it for granted that passionate love (which Tennov labels 'limerence') is a bittersweet experience." Hatfield, Elaine (1988). "Passionate and Companionate Love". In Sternberg, Robert (ed.). The Psychology of Love. Yale University Press. pp. 191–217. ISBN9780300045895. Archived from the original on 2024-05-25. Retrieved 2024-05-16.
Tallis 2004, pp. 216–218, 235: "[T]he limerent individual obsesses, idealises and shows high levels of emotional dependency. [...] There are certainly some striking similarities between love and addiction[,] particularly those described by Hite and Tennov. [...] At first, addiction is maintained by pleasure, but the intensity of this pleasure gradually diminishes and the addiction is then maintained by the avoidance of pain. [...] The 'addiction' is to a person, or an experience, not a chemical. [...] [O]ne of the characteristics shared by addicts and lovers is that they both obsess. The addict is always preoccupied by the next 'fix' or 'hit', while the lover is always preoccupied by the beloved. Such obsessions are associated with compulsive urges to seek out what is desired [...]." Tallis, Frank (2004). Love Sick: Love as a Mental Illness. Century. ISBN9780712629041. Retrieved 8 September 2024.
Money 1997, pp. 133–134, 219, 298, 302: "Lovesickness may take the form of a bizarre and obsessional fixation known in the clinical sexological literature as Clérambault-Kandinsky syndrome (CKS) [...], and also known as erotomania [...]. The CKS person is falsely convinced, to the point of delusion, that the target of his/her one-sided limerence is actually limerent in return, but dares not reveal it until a later date, even years ahead." Money, John (1997). Principles of Developmental Sexology. New York: Continuum. ISBN978-0-8264-1026-9.
Money 1997, p. 132-133: "Unrequited love is a synonym for unrequited limerence. It leaves a person vulnerable to an attack of lovesickness. Lovesickness may be transitory or prolonged, and major or minor in degree. It may be brought on by a person's anticipatory uncertainty about getting or not getting a reciprocal response to his/her limerence. Lovesickness may be brought on also by unequal proportions of limerence, for example, 100:70 instead of 100:100. The most unequal match is 100:0, total rejection. The formal definition of lovesickness (Money, 1986) is as follows. lovesickness: the personal experience and manifest expression of agony when the partner with whom one has fallen in love is a total mismatch whose response is indifference, or a partial mismatch whose reciprocity is incomplete, deficient, anomalous, or otherwise unsatisfactory." Money, John (1997). Principles of Developmental Sexology. New York: Continuum. ISBN978-0-8264-1026-9.
Bode, Adam; Kushnick, Geoff (11 April 2021). "Proximate and Ultimate Perspectives on Romantic Love". Frontiers in Psychology. 12. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2021.573123. PMC8074860. PMID33912094.: "Despite [the] attempts to define and describe romantic love, no single term or definition has been universally adopted in the literature. The psychological literature often uses the terms 'romantic love,' 'love,' and 'passionate love' [...]. Seminal work called it 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979). The biological literature generally uses the term 'romantic love' [...] or being 'in love' [...]. In this review, what we term 'romantic love' encompasses all of these definitions, descriptions, and terms."
Diamond, Lisa (Jan 2003). "What does sexual orientation orient? A biobehavioral model distinguishing romantic love and sexual desire". Psychological Review. 110 (1): 173–92. doi:10.1037/0033-295x.110.1.173. PMID12529061.: "Numerous researchers accord with a basic distinction between infatuation (also known as [...] limerence) and attachment [...]. In a self-report study of over 1,000 individuals, Tennov (1979) found that infatuation was characterized by intense desires for proximity and physical contact, resistance to separation, feelings of excitement and euphoria when receiving attention and affection from the partner, fascination with the partner's behavior and appearance, extreme sensitivity to his or her moods and signs of interest, and intrusive thoughts of the partner."
Acevedo, Bianca; Aron, Arthur (1 March 2009). "Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?". Review of General Psychology. 13 (1): 59–65. doi:10.1037/a0014226.: "Passionate love, 'a state of intense longing for union with another' (Hatfield & Rapson, 1993, p. 5), also referred to as [...] 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979), includes an obsessive element, characterized by intrusive thinking, uncertainty, and mood swings."
Leonti, Marco; Casu, Laura (2 July 2018). "Ethnopharmacology of Love". Frontiers in Psychology. 9: 567. doi:10.3389/fphar.2018.00567. PMC6041438. PMID30026695.: "The feeling of romantic love (also 'infatuated love' or 'limerence'; see Tennov, 1998) is the strongest sensation known to humankind and is characterized by a mix of unbearable exhilarating joy, anxiety, obsessive thinking and craving for emotional and physical union [...]. [...] Unrequited love, erotic frustration and the craving for the beloved object manifest themselves in what is commonly referred to as lovesickness (see Tennov, 1998). This often depressive and melancholic state of mind is characterized by intrusive thinking and also has an addictive component."
Fisher, Helen; Aron, Arthur; Mashek, Debra; Li, Haifang; Brown, Lucy (October 2002). "Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment". Archives of Sexual Behavior. 31 (5): 413–419. doi:10.1023/A:1019888024255. PMID12238608. Archived from the original on 18 February 2024. Retrieved 18 February 2024.: "In humans, the attraction system (standardly called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, being in love, infatuation, or limerence) is also characterized by feelings of exhilaration, 'intrusive thinking' about the love object, and a craving for emotional union with this partner or potential partner. [...] [A] list of 13 psychophysiological properties often associated with this excitatory state was compiled (see Fisher, 1998; Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986; Harris, 1995; Tennov, 1979). [...] Then 72-item questionnaire was compiled, based on these common properties [...]. [...] So this questionnaire was subsequently administered (along with several others) to all participants prior to their participation in Phase II of this study which involved fMRI of the brains of individuals who reported that they had 'just fallen madly in love.'"
Diamond, Lisa M. (2004). "Emerging Perspectives on Distinctions Between Romantic Love and Sexual Desire". Current Directions in Psychological Science. 13 (3): 116–119. doi:10.1111/j.0963-7214.2004.00287.x. ISSN0963-7214.: "[M]ost researchers acknowledge a distinction between the earlier 'passionate' stage of love, sometimes called 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979), and the later-developing 'companionate' stage of love [...]. Although it may be easy to imagine sexual desire without romantic love, the notion of 'pure,' 'platonic,' or 'nonsexual' romantic love is somewhat more controversial. Yet empirical evidence indicates that sexual desire is not a prerequisite for romantic love, even in its earliest, passionate stages. Many men and women report having experienced romantic passion in the absence of sexual desire (Tennov, 1979) [...]."
Langeslag, Sandra; Van Der Veen, Frederik; Fekkes, Durk (2012). "Blood Levels of Serotonin Are Differentially Affected by Romantic Love in Men and Women". Journal of Psychophysiology. 26 (2): 92–98. doi:10.1027/0269-8803/a000071. hdl:1765/75067.
Marazziti, D.; Akiskal, H. S.; Rossi, A.; Cassano, G. B. (1999). "Alteration of the platelet serotonin transporter in romantic love". Psychol. Med. 29 (3): 741–745. doi:10.1017/S0033291798007946. PMID10405096. S2CID12630172.
Shaver, Phillip; Hazan, Cindy (1985), "Incompatibility, Loneliness, and "Limerence"", in Ickes, W. (ed.), Compatible and Incompatible Relationships, Springer, New York, NY, pp. 163–184, doi:10.1007/978-1-4612-5044-9_8, ISBN978-1-4612-9538-9
Langeslag, Sandra; Van Der Veen, Frederik; Fekkes, Durk (2012). "Blood Levels of Serotonin Are Differentially Affected by Romantic Love in Men and Women". Journal of Psychophysiology. 26 (2): 92–98. doi:10.1027/0269-8803/a000071. hdl:1765/75067.
Karandashev, Victor (12 March 2022). "What Is Romantic Love?". The Diversity of Love Journal. Archived from the original on 7 January 2025. Retrieved 7 January 2025.
Bode, Adam; Kushnick, Geoff (11 April 2021). "Proximate and Ultimate Perspectives on Romantic Love". Frontiers in Psychology. 12. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2021.573123. PMC8074860. PMID33912094.: "Despite [the] attempts to define and describe romantic love, no single term or definition has been universally adopted in the literature. The psychological literature often uses the terms 'romantic love,' 'love,' and 'passionate love' [...]. Seminal work called it 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979). The biological literature generally uses the term 'romantic love' [...] or being 'in love' [...]. In this review, what we term 'romantic love' encompasses all of these definitions, descriptions, and terms."
Diamond, Lisa (Jan 2003). "What does sexual orientation orient? A biobehavioral model distinguishing romantic love and sexual desire". Psychological Review. 110 (1): 173–92. doi:10.1037/0033-295x.110.1.173. PMID12529061.: "Numerous researchers accord with a basic distinction between infatuation (also known as [...] limerence) and attachment [...]. In a self-report study of over 1,000 individuals, Tennov (1979) found that infatuation was characterized by intense desires for proximity and physical contact, resistance to separation, feelings of excitement and euphoria when receiving attention and affection from the partner, fascination with the partner's behavior and appearance, extreme sensitivity to his or her moods and signs of interest, and intrusive thoughts of the partner."
Leonti, Marco; Casu, Laura (2 July 2018). "Ethnopharmacology of Love". Frontiers in Psychology. 9: 567. doi:10.3389/fphar.2018.00567. PMC6041438. PMID30026695.: "The feeling of romantic love (also 'infatuated love' or 'limerence'; see Tennov, 1998) is the strongest sensation known to humankind and is characterized by a mix of unbearable exhilarating joy, anxiety, obsessive thinking and craving for emotional and physical union [...]. [...] Unrequited love, erotic frustration and the craving for the beloved object manifest themselves in what is commonly referred to as lovesickness (see Tennov, 1998). This often depressive and melancholic state of mind is characterized by intrusive thinking and also has an addictive component."
Fisher, Helen; Aron, Arthur; Mashek, Debra; Li, Haifang; Brown, Lucy (October 2002). "Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment". Archives of Sexual Behavior. 31 (5): 413–419. doi:10.1023/A:1019888024255. PMID12238608. Archived from the original on 18 February 2024. Retrieved 18 February 2024.: "In humans, the attraction system (standardly called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, being in love, infatuation, or limerence) is also characterized by feelings of exhilaration, 'intrusive thinking' about the love object, and a craving for emotional union with this partner or potential partner. [...] [A] list of 13 psychophysiological properties often associated with this excitatory state was compiled (see Fisher, 1998; Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986; Harris, 1995; Tennov, 1979). [...] Then 72-item questionnaire was compiled, based on these common properties [...]. [...] So this questionnaire was subsequently administered (along with several others) to all participants prior to their participation in Phase II of this study which involved fMRI of the brains of individuals who reported that they had 'just fallen madly in love.'"
Marazziti, D.; Akiskal, H. S.; Rossi, A.; Cassano, G. B. (1999). "Alteration of the platelet serotonin transporter in romantic love". Psychol. Med. 29 (3): 741–745. doi:10.1017/S0033291798007946. PMID10405096. S2CID12630172.
Bode, Adam; Kushnick, Geoff (11 April 2021). "Proximate and Ultimate Perspectives on Romantic Love". Frontiers in Psychology. 12. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2021.573123. PMC8074860. PMID33912094.: "Despite [the] attempts to define and describe romantic love, no single term or definition has been universally adopted in the literature. The psychological literature often uses the terms 'romantic love,' 'love,' and 'passionate love' [...]. Seminal work called it 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979). The biological literature generally uses the term 'romantic love' [...] or being 'in love' [...]. In this review, what we term 'romantic love' encompasses all of these definitions, descriptions, and terms."
Leonti, Marco; Casu, Laura (2 July 2018). "Ethnopharmacology of Love". Frontiers in Psychology. 9: 567. doi:10.3389/fphar.2018.00567. PMC6041438. PMID30026695.: "The feeling of romantic love (also 'infatuated love' or 'limerence'; see Tennov, 1998) is the strongest sensation known to humankind and is characterized by a mix of unbearable exhilarating joy, anxiety, obsessive thinking and craving for emotional and physical union [...]. [...] Unrequited love, erotic frustration and the craving for the beloved object manifest themselves in what is commonly referred to as lovesickness (see Tennov, 1998). This often depressive and melancholic state of mind is characterized by intrusive thinking and also has an addictive component."
Acevedo, Bianca; Aron, Arthur (1 March 2009). "Does a Long-Term Relationship Kill Romantic Love?". Review of General Psychology. 13 (1): 59–65. doi:10.1037/a0014226.: "Passionate love, 'a state of intense longing for union with another' (Hatfield & Rapson, 1993, p. 5), also referred to as [...] 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979), includes an obsessive element, characterized by intrusive thinking, uncertainty, and mood swings."
Diamond, Lisa M. (2004). "Emerging Perspectives on Distinctions Between Romantic Love and Sexual Desire". Current Directions in Psychological Science. 13 (3): 116–119. doi:10.1111/j.0963-7214.2004.00287.x. ISSN0963-7214.: "[M]ost researchers acknowledge a distinction between the earlier 'passionate' stage of love, sometimes called 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979), and the later-developing 'companionate' stage of love [...]. Although it may be easy to imagine sexual desire without romantic love, the notion of 'pure,' 'platonic,' or 'nonsexual' romantic love is somewhat more controversial. Yet empirical evidence indicates that sexual desire is not a prerequisite for romantic love, even in its earliest, passionate stages. Many men and women report having experienced romantic passion in the absence of sexual desire (Tennov, 1979) [...]."
Marazziti, D.; Akiskal, H. S.; Rossi, A.; Cassano, G. B. (1999). "Alteration of the platelet serotonin transporter in romantic love". Psychol. Med. 29 (3): 741–745. doi:10.1017/S0033291798007946. PMID10405096. S2CID12630172.
Fisher, Helen; Aron, Arthur; Mashek, Debra; Li, Haifang; Brown, Lucy (October 2002). "Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment". Archives of Sexual Behavior. 31 (5): 413–419. doi:10.1023/A:1019888024255. PMID12238608. Archived from the original on 18 February 2024. Retrieved 18 February 2024.: "In humans, the attraction system (standardly called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, being in love, infatuation, or limerence) is also characterized by feelings of exhilaration, 'intrusive thinking' about the love object, and a craving for emotional union with this partner or potential partner. [...] [A] list of 13 psychophysiological properties often associated with this excitatory state was compiled (see Fisher, 1998; Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986; Harris, 1995; Tennov, 1979). [...] Then 72-item questionnaire was compiled, based on these common properties [...]. [...] So this questionnaire was subsequently administered (along with several others) to all participants prior to their participation in Phase II of this study which involved fMRI of the brains of individuals who reported that they had 'just fallen madly in love.'"
Hatfield 1988, p. 197: "Tennov (1979) interviewed more than five hundred passionate lovers. Almost all lovers took it for granted that passionate love (which Tennov labels 'limerence') is a bittersweet experience." Hatfield, Elaine (1988). "Passionate and Companionate Love". In Sternberg, Robert (ed.). The Psychology of Love. Yale University Press. pp. 191–217. ISBN9780300045895. Archived from the original on 2024-05-25. Retrieved 2024-05-16.
Fisher, Helen; Aron, Arthur; Mashek, Debra; Li, Haifang; Brown, Lucy (October 2002). "Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment". Archives of Sexual Behavior. 31 (5): 413–419. doi:10.1023/A:1019888024255. PMID12238608. Archived from the original on 18 February 2024. Retrieved 18 February 2024.: "In humans, the attraction system (standardly called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, being in love, infatuation, or limerence) is also characterized by feelings of exhilaration, 'intrusive thinking' about the love object, and a craving for emotional union with this partner or potential partner. [...] [A] list of 13 psychophysiological properties often associated with this excitatory state was compiled (see Fisher, 1998; Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986; Harris, 1995; Tennov, 1979). [...] Then 72-item questionnaire was compiled, based on these common properties [...]. [...] So this questionnaire was subsequently administered (along with several others) to all participants prior to their participation in Phase II of this study which involved fMRI of the brains of individuals who reported that they had 'just fallen madly in love.'"
Karandashev, Victor (12 March 2022). "What Is Romantic Love?". The Diversity of Love Journal. Archived from the original on 7 January 2025. Retrieved 7 January 2025.
Diamond, Lisa M. (2004). "Emerging Perspectives on Distinctions Between Romantic Love and Sexual Desire". Current Directions in Psychological Science. 13 (3): 116–119. doi:10.1111/j.0963-7214.2004.00287.x. ISSN0963-7214.: "[M]ost researchers acknowledge a distinction between the earlier 'passionate' stage of love, sometimes called 'limerence' (Tennov, 1979), and the later-developing 'companionate' stage of love [...]. Although it may be easy to imagine sexual desire without romantic love, the notion of 'pure,' 'platonic,' or 'nonsexual' romantic love is somewhat more controversial. Yet empirical evidence indicates that sexual desire is not a prerequisite for romantic love, even in its earliest, passionate stages. Many men and women report having experienced romantic passion in the absence of sexual desire (Tennov, 1979) [...]."
Fisher, Helen (2012). "We have chemistry! The role of four primary temperament dimensions in mate choice and partner compatibility". The Psychotherapist. No. 52. United Kingdom: United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy. ISSN2049-4912.: "Passionate love, obsessive love, being in love, whatever you wish to call it. [...] In short, Explorers preferentially sought Explorers, Builders sought other Builders, and Directors and Negotiators were drawn to one another."
